This post is one that I’ve been trying to do for a while and I have rewritten what seems like a hundred times. Yes, you’ve guessed it. This post is going to be about being in a long distance relationship.
So I live in San Diego and my boyfriend Chris lives in Washington because that is where he goes to school. We are both Juniors in college so we are going on three years of long distance. Although we don’t have to deal with a time difference, long distance is nothing to take lightly.
I will say that it has gotten easier in some ways but also remains difficult in others. By this I mean I don’t cry for a week straight when he leaves for school, but I definitely still feel lonely some times. Communication has always been something that has been difficult especially when we have different schedules and we’re both pretty busy. Despite this we try and Skype each other everyday just so that way we can just talk about our day and it for me it feels like he’s with me for a little bit.
The hardest part about being in long distance is probably just feeling like I’m missing out. I feel like all of these amazing things are happening with out me and I just wish I could be there for everything. It’s tough when you care about someone so much and you think about someone all the time but you can’t be there for their life 75% of the year. I know a lot of people say trust but that has never been an issue for me. In my opinion if you can’t trust the person you want to be in a long distance relationship with, you are going to have a very difficult time. Trust is definitely key, along with communication and time management.
I think the best part about being in a long distance relationship is that when you are together you know not to take that time for granted. When you know there’s a time limit on what you have you try and make everyday count. Summer is my favorite time of year. Not just because it’s warm and I get to go to the beach but it’s the one time of year where Chris is home for longer then a week. We get to be like a normal couple and go on dates and see each other with out a screen being in between us. We always try to go on as many adventures and spend as much time together as possible. I feel like if we weren’t long distance it would be a lot easier to get into a routine and not be as spontaneous as we are.
Another thing that I love is that feeling when you see each other after not being with each other. That feeling is like butterflies and jitters and excitement all mixed together. Every time I’m waiting for Chris to come out of the gate at the airport I’m always pacing, or tapping my foot because I’m nervous and excited and I love that feeling.
Being in these circumstances has been one of the most difficult things I’ve had to go through. It’s not easy having your other half somewhere else. It’s definitely made me more patient, understanding and easygoing. I’ve learned that you can’t control everything and that people sometimes need to grow on their own in order to be together. I don’t think long distance is for everyone and just because you can’t do long distance doesn’t mean you don’t belong together. What has really been a constant thought for me is that if it’s meant to be it will be. And I think that applies to every relationship regardless of time or distance.
I hope you guys enjoyed this post!